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Surviving Separation And Divorce; from a child’s point of view.

Divorce is one of the most traumatic events that could occur to a individual. When a child is concerned in the split, numerous complications could come about, and its influences on the kid could be huge. Occasionally, children with poor esteem can be attributed with the parent’s separation and divorce. Hypnosis for children is one of the few techniques being used these days to aid children in coping with a traumatic incident such as a divorce.

Younger children do not really understand divorce and most of the times decide not to thinks or act about it.   In most cases, the older children or adolescents also show composure upon the announcement of divorce.

But still there are some children who think that the relationship is falling out because of his behavior.  This is the perspective of a child.  He would foster this feeling, developing an image that he is unlovable and cannot have the ability to also love.

Children will develop this feeling upon seeing that their parents are having emotional difficulties.  They are not used to seeing their parents stressed out and emotional like this.  When parents are preoccupied with their own emotional problems, they tend to forget to provide the comfort, guidance and protection that they need to give to their own children. Psychologists refer to this as the stage of “diminished parental capacity.”

Another problem children encounter would be the sense of  loyalty the child is forced to reckon with.  The child feels that he or she is expressing disloyalty when he loves both parents.  Children of divorced parents often feel that their parents resent them because they came or are a product of both of them.  In subconscious level, when parents show dislike or venomous reaction to each other, the children feel that they are also disliked.

Hypnotherapy would be able to help children cope in quickest, most successful and drug-free on the complications of the parent’s slip.  Hypnosis is valuable for helping children picture himself as an individual who can be loved and accepted.  The  great thing about children is that they have wide imagination which can be used to visualize that they are lovable and acceptable.

Sometimes children are put into a position where they fill the void that was emptied out by the spouse.  Sometimes the spouse will fill the child with troubles or talk about work, while some single parents would take their children out to adult dinners.  Although the child seems to enjoy these moments that they share with the parents, it is important to remember that they are children and should not be concerned with adult problems.

Hypnotherapy enables children to relax and find their inner peace.  This helps the children to become children again and experience their childhood rather than be affected by adult problems.

By undergoing hypnotherapy, the children are put into deep relaxation or daydream.  All the fears, anxiety, depression, grief, weight, bad feelings and resentment are all “blown away”, making the child free from negative thoughts and emotions.

There are also hypnosis recordings to which your child can listen to.  There are different CD compilations talking about divorce that will help children go through the difficult time. Aside from addressing the negative feelings, there are also hypnosis recordings and methods that would address self-esteem and self-confidence building.  Hypnosis for children is not the only thing that would help your children get through with the difficult moment, but it is the support, understanding and love that you extend to them that would matter.

Thomas “Trapper” Sherwood; CMH
Certified Master Hypnotist
http://mindvacationmeditation.com

Filed under: Uncategorized on January 26th, 2010